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Life Re-Creators--New Year Greetings

2008-12-31T12:36:00.003-07:00

Happy New Year Life Re-Creators,

H=Health in all areas of your life
A=Attract your dreams
P=Please remember self-responsibility is the opposite of selfish
P=Pause to express gratitude
Y=You make conscious choices for how you live your life

N=Next year is a whole new world of opportunities
E=Every decision you make consciously reflects your awareness of your choices
W=Work is only part of life—what are you doing you enjoy?

Y=Your Transformational Journaling helps you Re-Create your life
E= Experience all the moments as you enjoy each day
A=Accept life throws you curves, how you turn them into opportunities is your choice
R=Remember life is for living to the fullest

Your guide on your journey to
Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life
through Conscious Choice,
Debra

P.S. Wait until you see what is planned for 2009

P.P.S. You are awesome just as you are

Gratitude, Healing, and Polished Rocks

2008-11-28T14:58:00.008-07:00

What do Gratitude, Healing and Polished Rocks have in common?

Hello Life Re-Creators,

Was your e-mail box swamped with Thanksgiving wishes?
Mine sure was.
That's exactly why you are receiving your Thanksgiving wish today.
Happy Thanksgiving to all--even if yesterday was not your official Thanksgiving day.
Is gratitude a part of every day for you?

You were in my thoughts yesterday as my grandchildren and children
provided so much joy, I refused to leave them.

Here's what gratitude I have for them being in our lives.
For many years, they lived too far away to join us on Thanksgiving.
Wishes were extended by phone and lots of life milestones were missed.
In the spirit of Re-Creating my life through Conscious Choice,
I decided to devote my day to them and be fully present.

Forming new family traditions is one of the Conscious Choices
I made while on my healing path.
Yesterday, we created a new family tradition.
Everyone chose a part of the menu to help me prepare.
As the "chief chef", I taught and supervised
rather than doing most of the actual work.

We experienced a wonderful interactive day
without any stress or tension.
This is the foundation of my gratitude that
comes from healing dysfunctional family issues.

When we took a break, the children were
shown a little project I've been working on.
This is where polished rocks comes in...

At the end of the summer, I went with a group
of friends crystal hunting near where we live.
This opened my eyes to beauty close at hand.

A rock tumbler caught my eye, and
I decided to see what would happen.
Do you know how long it takes to tumble rocks
from rough form to beautiful polished stones?
It depends on the type of rock,
but at a minimum 4-5 weeks.

The rocks just finished tumbling this week and
I asked the children to help me do the final process.
They were amazed at how long it takes rocks
to change from rough to smooth.

Do you sometimes think your healing is the same way?
When you stay focused on your healing,
just as I moved the rocks from one process to the next,
you will find the polished stone inside yourself.

Transformational Journaling is the key for you
to create wonderful family traditions to fill your heart with gratitude.

Transformational Journaling Focus Point:
I create new family traditions by.....

Wishing you a year filled with gratitude for healing,

Debra
Your Guide On Your Journey to Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life

P.S. When you use Transformational Journaling, you find the beautiful stone.

P.P.S. Keep using your focus points to Re-Create Your Life through Conscious Choice

Spirituality and Transformational Journaling

2008-10-29T11:13:00.004-06:00

Spirituality and how it applies in Transformational Journaling
is a question raised by some readers. This can be a touchy
subject because there are so many religious and spiritual beliefs.

Before I share my viewpoint, I want you to know this is a
common issue that individuals face when they enter any
type of recovery or change system. Some people go to
12-step programs because they have a spiritual base
while others stay away for the same reason. There
are other groups similar to 12 step programs that
remove all references to spirituality. On my own
recovery path, I met many people who felt the
only way to heal was through a specific church--
this includes many denominations.

For me, spirituality is a very personal issue.
Because everyone has different belief systems,
and it may be different from mine, I work with
each person individually on this issue. Some people
want to include spirituality in their healing process
and others don’t. This is all part of Re-Creating
your life through conscious choice.

What is most important is healing from your
dysfunctional family issues whether it be an
alcoholic or substance abusing parent,
child abuse, or your own addictions.
Transformational Journaling works for
any healing issues. You include your own
personal preferences for spirituality or non-spiritual
involvement in your soul transformation.

What is your most burning question about
applying Transformational Journaling in your life?
Leave it in the comments section here.

Peace and contentment in your life,
Debra

P.S. Learn how Transformational Journaling can help you heal
at yoursoultransformed.com

P.P.S. Take the assessment and receive your free report by return e-mail.

5 Reasons WhyTransformational Journaling:

2008-10-22T16:11:00.003-06:00

Five Reasons Why I Recommend Transformational Journaling

Have you ever kept running thoughts over and over in your head? Maybe they keep you awake at night. A former client complained about this in one of our groups. I suggested he write down what was running through his brain so it would be on paper the next morning when he woke up. He reported this worked for him and he was able to get back to sleep. In the morning, he was able to make choices about what he wanted to do in regards to the issue keeping him awake.

5 Reasons I recommend Transformational Journaling for the healing process.

1) Transformational Journaling moves constantly rehashed thoughts out of your head and onto paper. This creates a release of the overload or overwhelm you are experiencing to get past being burdened by the inability to resolve the current problem. It allows you to see a way to the solution.

2) Transformational Journaling ties your thoughts (beliefs), behaviors (actions), and feelings (emotions) together so you can assess the reality of what is happening in your life. This helps with the next reason.

3) Transformational Journaling develops clarity for where you are living your life around a specific issue.

4) When you use Transformational Journaling to move thoughts out of your head, it creates the mental space to decide what you want to do differently in the future with regard to that issue.

5) Transformational Journaling creates a record of growth and change you can review to see what you have done to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life.

You can learn more about applying Transformational Journaling in your life. Check out if this system is for you. Go here to take the assessment. Receive your free report that tells you where Transformational Journaling will help you most in your life.

See you on Your Inner Journey,

Debra

P.S. The more you use the Transformational Journaling techniques, the more you live your life based on conscious choice.

P.P.S. Go now and take the assessment to find out how Transformational Journaling will help you.

What Does Resurfacing A Highway Have To Do With Transformational Journaling?

2008-10-08T10:28:00.003-06:00

What Does Resurfacing A Highway Have To Do With
Transformational Journaling?

Before I answer this question,
let me tell you what happened.

Several days ago, I was driving on the interstate.
I came to a construction zone. As I slowed my car
to the legal limit,it occurred to me there is a
system construction companies use to resurface a highway.

First, they resurface in sections.
Second, they may be taking the surface off one side
of the highway, and at the same time be building up
the surface on the other side. Or they could just be
doing this with two different traffic lanes.

Here’s what I noticed. They are transforming a
bumpy surface back to a smooth surface.
Just like your Inner Journey where you
remove the layers of the bumpy surface to
Re-Create your Life of Conscious Choice.

Once you Transform Your Soul with
Transformational Journaling, you choose
the next steps on Your Daily Journey
differently because you now have a
smooth surface to ride on.

Over time, if you stop or slow down
your journaling you may notice your road
starts to develop bumps in it. This is a good
reminder to renew your Transformational Journaling
because with any road, there is going to be wear and tear.

The good news is you have the Transformational Journaling
tools to apply immediately whenever wear and tear, or
stress and strain occur in your life. You can
Re-Create your Life through Conscious Choice
in less than 15 minutes.

Now is the time for you to take control of your life!
Invest in Your Re-Created Life with
“From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey”

Your Guide on Your Journey to Transform Your Soul,
Debra

P.S. Remember, you are able to make Conscious Choices
about how you live your life today.

P.P.S. Move your journey along quickly with
“From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey”

Journey Down Your Transformation Path

2008-10-03T13:57:00.007-06:00

Journey Down Your Transformation Path
as I guide you on your path to Transform
your Soul and Re-Create your Life.
Before I take you on this special walk I created for you,
plan to set aside 6 minutes to focus on your transformation.

Colorado is beautiful this time of year, and I make
a commitment each year to spend a day among the
aspens as their leaves turn to gold. This day I share
with you was perfect. The weather was warm. The breeze
was rustling the leaves, and I wanted to give this day to
you no matter where you are.

Turn your speakers up just a little bit and take a deep breath.
Take this place of peace and harmony into your soul.
Transformation is your choice.

Your Transformation Path is available to you when you invest in
From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey

Peace and harmony,
Debra

P.S. You create your life through conscious choice
when you start Transformational Journaling.

P.P.S. I look forward to hearing how
From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey
is making a difference for you.

What's Next--Your Daily Journey

2008-09-23T16:26:00.003-06:00

What's Next--Your Daily Journey

Now you are on your way with Transformational Journaling.
While you are moving forward on your path in
"From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey"
be sure to take advantage of all the bonuses.
You reap the benefits and move forward to
Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life through Conscious Choice.

Book owners take advantage of this bonus.
Remember to call the office or drop me an e-mail to let me know
when you are available for your one-on-one 1/2 hour
Transformational Journaling consult.

You can help me bring together key issues important to you in
"From Darkness to Light: Your Daily Journey" by answering
this question.

"What is the most important question you have related to
Transforming Your Soul on "Your Daily Journey"?

Just comment in the box below. Send it along as anonymous
if you want to keep it private.

Help me create the book that answers your most pressing questions.

Peace and joy,

Debra
Your guide on your journey to Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life

P.S. Your copy of "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey" is available here.

P.P.S. Contact me to set up your 1/2 hour one-on-one

P. P. P. S. Send me your answer to
"What is the most important question you have related to
Transforming Your Soul on "Your Daily Journey"? in the comments box.

Take Your Transformational Journaling To The Next Level

2008-09-16T14:53:00.008-06:00

Take Your Transformational Journaling To The Next Level

You are ending this part of your journey. Your Inner Journey prepares you for the next part of your trip. You have the techniques to "Keep Your Path Of Choice". Be prepared to take the next step "From Darkness to Light: Your Daily Journey".

Chapter VIII gives you the skills to

Keep Your Path Of Choice

To maintain soul transformation involves daily action through affirmations, creating a harmonious lifestyle, and establishing realistic goals. When focused on what you want to be, have, do, and give you are moving forward to create your life. You are in charge and every choice you make moves you forward to living life on your terms.

A Look On The Positive Side

You are probably asking how we look on the positive side. I learned to do this with affirmations. There are lots of opinions about affirmations. Let me tell you what they are and how I use them.

Create Your Harmonious Lifestyle

You move your soul transformation process along with maintenance of all you accomplished through your transformational journaling. There are many options to create a harmonious lifestyle. You examine each area of your life to determine where you are in that area and project where you want to be in one year, five years, and moving forward. You develop a framework for a harmonious life.

To Share Or Not To Share—That Is The Question

Now that you are journaling, what do you do with all your writing? It's time to consider whether you are ready to share your discoveries with a safe confidante or to keep them to yourself for a while longer. When I shared my Transformational Journaling, I found my safe confidante supportive, understanding, and encouraging.

When I shared with my confidante, it helped me open my life up to you so you could move forward on your journey.

Maintain a harmonized lifestyle

In teleseminars

You Learn how to prevent old patterns from cropping up and methods used to avoid them.
You are Provided a means to develop a harmonious lifestyle.
You Establish goals to maintain soul transformation.
You Develop a prevention plan you can put into action immediately when needed.

Now is the time to take action to Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life of Conscious Choice. Your copy of "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey" is waiting for you. You owe yourself a life of peace, contentment, and harmony.

Peace and joy,
Debra

P.S. "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey" comes with over $ 650.00 in bonuses.

P.P.S. Remember, I am with you along the journey. To communicate with me directly, mail to: drdebra@houseofpeacepubs.com or call me in the office 719-647-0652.

I Think I Can, I Think I Can--Thoughts Create Reality

2008-09-10T14:52:00.004-06:00

I Think I Can, I Think I Can--Thoughts Create Reality

Just like "The Little Engine That Could", your Thoughts Create Your Reality"
Re-Create Your Life when you Transform Your Thoughts with Transformational Journaling.

Chapter VII in "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey" gives you techniques to Set Healthy Limits and harmonize your Teeter-Totter Thoughts.

Take a look now at Chapter VII

Thoughts Create Reality

Focusing on your thinking processes is an important area for transforming your soul. Many messages you received growing up continue to run your life at a subconscious level. You may find yourself on automatic pilot more than you can imagine. Your reactions to situations may seem to come out of nowhere. Actually, they are coming from messages received as a child.

These messages affect your emotional and physical limits. Your personal values, standards, and beliefs are affected. They affect your Teeter-Totter Thinking. Explore these areas and identify what thinking patterns are keeping you from transforming your soul.

Set Healthy Limits

Establishing Healthy Emotional and Physical Limits is an important area for transforming your life. Because souls in transformation often experience boundary violations from abuse, neglect, or being burdened with carried feelings, they have difficulty setting and maintaining healthy limits.
Limits

• Define personal limits and the differences between healthy, damaged, non-existent limits and walls.
• Provides a framework to determine what your limits are and how you want to make them more functional.
• Learn to establish healthy limits, you learn to take charge of your own identity and develop differentiation from the family you grew up in.

Teeter-Totter Thoughts

Another area where limit violations occur is in our thinking patterns. People entering soul transformation often find they have rigid thinking patterns. They tend to be black and white, or either or thinking patterns. I like to think of them as opposite ends of a teeter-totter. When you choose your response from one end or the other, you are out-of-harmony.

• Understand Teeter-Totter thinking commonly referred to as black and white or absolute thinking.
• You are presented with a means to make changes in your thinking and the techniques needed to make these changes.

Teeter-totter Thinking journaling is a vital area to address in soul transformation. You may react to messages and communication without considering what thought patterns are behind your reactions. Then, as you consider the situation at a later time, you may find yourself wishing you said something differently or reacted in a different way.

Being aware of your personal limits, helps you adjust your reaction to respond based on choice. Awareness of your teeter-totter thoughts allows you the opportunity to choose your verbal response instead of automatically reacting with the thinking patterns you learned in childhood.

We're nearing the end of Your Inner Journey.
Your copy of "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey" is waiting for you.
Just click on over to http://yoursoultransformed.com/innerjourneybook_dw.htm to grab your copy to get the most out of your journey.

There are some very valuable bonuses worth over $ 650 I put in the book to make your journey successful. Let's get you started Transforming Your Soul and Re-Creating Your Life.

Peace be with you on your path,

Debra
Your guide on your journey to
Transform Your Soul and
Re-Create Your Life through Conscious Choice
drdebra@houseofpeacepubs.com

P.S. One special bonus is a free 1/2 hour one-on-one Transformational Journaling Consultation with me--not one of my staff.

P.P.S. Now is the time to make conscious choices to Choose Your Thoughts and Create Your Reality

Do Adults from Dysfunctional Families and Numbed Feelings Go Together?

2008-09-05T13:53:00.004-06:00

Do Adults from Dysfunctional Families and Numbed Feelings Go Together?

In my experience working with Adult Children
from Dysfunctional Families, their feelings
are either numbed out or over-reactive.

Pay close attention to Chapter VI in

From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey

Take a peek at

Chapter VI

Wake Up Your Feelings

A Picture Speaks A Thousand Words

Create Your Own Feeling Pictures

Whose Feeling Is It Anyway?

Life Moves On

Wake Up Your Feelings

Experiencing feelings in-depth and delving deeper into them fully brings on an enhanced level of soul transformation. Keep in mind that feelings are not right or wrong, good or bad. They are your physical and emotional experience of life. As you move into work centered on feelings, you may find it difficult to acknowledge feelings and experience them.

Here is where you may get stuck because you're afraid to let your feelings out. This happens because we kept them held down for a long, long time. Take this chapter slowly and work with positive feelings as much as possible. Once you are able to paint feeling pictures, then go for a low level negative feeling such as "bored".

Create Your Own Feeling Pictures

The most effective method in describing a feeling is using your five senses and painting a word picture. I realized how cut off my body was from my brain. Thinking back to my five senses helped me connect my body and brain.

You may be wondering why this is such an important area for soul transformation. Feelings are the basis of healthy communication. When we are disconnected from our feeling self, we tend to express ourselves in dysfunctional ways.

Whose Feeling Is It Anyway?

Carried feelings are the ones parents were not being responsible for in themselves when they were in their own shame. These feelings are the burdens weighing the recovering soul down because they override their own feelings. It’s like having someone else put all their stuff in your backpack to carry for them. You have your stuff and theirs on top of yours. You have a hard time finding your stuff under all their stuff.

Life Moves On

Healing involves grieving various types of losses in your life. To help you work through the grieving stages, I put together five questions based on the five stages of grief. These questions are designed to help you assess where you are in your process and where you want to go to move through the grieving process.

Grief work provides you with outlets to express feelings related to past, present and future losses. Connecting with you on a feeling level is an important process in soul transformation and Re-Creating Your Life. There is no set order to work through grief. You may find yourself bouncing in and out of the different stages as you do your grief work. This is normal and there is no set time limit on how long it takes to grieve a loss. It is very important to be gentle with yourself while working through your grief.

In "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey", I walk you step-by-step to paint your own feelings pictures. You learn how I experience "jovial", then use your Transformational Journaling "Focus Point" to do the same. Included with the book is a list of over 800 feeling words you can choose from to start connecting with yourself and gently bringing your feelings back to life.

Send me your questions or personal discoveries to

drdebra@houseofpeacepubs.com

Let me know how you are progressing on your journey.

Go now and get your copy of "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey"
http://yoursoultransformed.com/innerjourneybook_dw.htm to get the detailed Transformational Journaling techniques and "Focus Points".

Peace and joy,

Debra

Your Guide on Your Inner Journey

P.S. Remember there are over $ 650 in bonuses in the eBook

P.P.S. Connect with your self and Re-Create Your Life of Choice

Surviving Hurricanes and DysFunctional Families

2008-09-02T13:53:00.004-06:00

Surviving Hurricanes and DysFunctional Families

What do hurricanes and DysFunctional Families have in common?

Before I get to the answer, I want you to take a moment for the
survivors of Hurricane Gustav. I know what they experienced.
After living 10 years in the Florida panhandle, I returned to Colorado.

My first hurricane warning was a traumatic and quick learning experience.
By the time, we were forced to flee Ft. Walton Beach several years later,
I felt like a seasoned hurricane veteran.
Even today, I feel the tension of watching and waiting for the latest
hurricane to make landfall.

My heart goes out to all who must leave their homes and daily routines.
It’s tough not to know what you will
find the first time you approach your home.
The most memorable find for me was melted ice cream in my freezer.
Two days without electricity--I look back and smile about this today
as I picture myself cleaning up the mess.

How does this relate to DysFunctional Families?
Trauma and abuse survivors never know what will happen next.
They spend their lives waiting for the next incident to occur, always on-guard.
In “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey” find out
Does Your Family Put The Fun In DysFunctional? Take a peek at Chapter V now.

Chapter V
Does Your Family Put The Fun In DysFunctional?
All About Your Family
Your Family Theater
Rules Of The Family Game

All About Your Family

Family patterns describe how to create a healthy functioning family. The more a family functions on a healthy level day-by-day, the more quickly they return to healthy functioning after moving through a crisis or stress situation. Functional family patterns are described in four areas:

• Communication
• Relationships
• Personal growth
• System maintenance

Wow! Communication is probably the most misunderstood idea in developing healthy families, healthy relationships, and healthy lives.

Relationships are the backbone of the family. You find out how to create healthy relationships within your family, socially, and in all areas of your life.

Personal growth is the emotional, mental, and spiritual development of the individual. My mentors and teachers are all in agreement with me…“if you’re not growing, you’re dying”. Growing through the “Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls™ system is a lifetime investment in your own personal growth.

System maintenance is about creating and maintaining harmony in the family system. Now is your opportunity to learn how to Re-Create your Life in healthy ways. In the eBook “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey, I take you step-by-step through the process.

Your Family Theater

As an adult, you continue to pursue these behavior patterns in all your relationships. The family role patterns identified in this book are the hero, caretaker, scapegoat, lost child, and mascot. We talk about these in the “Family Theater”. In “Rules of the Family Game”, we talk about spoken and unspoken rules you are expected to follow. “All about your Family” covers how the family learns to be dysfunctional and how this dysfunction is passed on generationally.

In the eBook “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey, you determine your family role and decide how you want to increase your flexibility to Transform your Soul.
Once you identify your issues, choices about how you want to change are possible.

Rules Of The Family Game

Family rules are expectations about how family members interact or relate to each other. They may be stated or unstated. In the eBook “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey, you will find a chart of general family rules.

Family patterns, roles, and rules cover a broad cross-section of family functioning. Through identifying patterns and processes, you move your soul transformation forward to thriving in your life. You no longer carry the dysfunctional patterns of your childhood into your adult relationships and current family.

Transformational Journaling “Focus Point”--Determine how you may be passing dysfunctional family patterns on to your current family.

Peace and calm,
Debra

P.S. Take 10-15 minutes to write out your response to this “Focus Point”.
P.P.S. Send your response to me. I’m available at drdebra@houseofpeacepubs.com or by phone 719-647-0652 (Mountain time—USA).

Discover The Complicated Web We Weave

2008-08-28T15:14:00.005-06:00

The Complicated Web We Weave is a deeper look at the family you grew up in. Discover what makes families so complicated. What Family System Patterns were present in your family? Find out how Family and Individual Development are woven into the pattern of your family. Look inside the Types Of Families That Produce Dysfunctional Behavior Patterns. Chapter Four gets right into the middle of the issues.

Chapter IV

Oh The Complicated Web We Weave

Family System Patterns

Family/Individual Development

Types Of Families That Produce Dysfunctional Behavior Patterns

Families Take Lots Of Work

Family Patterns

Understand how your family you grew up in passed on dysfunctional patterns through the multigenerational emotional process. Okay, I know that was a mouthful. Let me explain.

First, multigenerational means the patterns you learned which came down from parents, grandparents, great-grandparents and possibly further back.

Now, for the second part of that phrase “emotional process” means the feelings you are encouraged to express and the feelings no one wants to talk about. This also refers to your emotional development. In “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey” you discover how to identify your dysfunctional family patterns and decide how you want to do them differently in the future.

What does “dysfunctional” mean? I know you’ve heard it many times. It means you are being, doing, feeling, thinking, and acting in unhealthy ways. Later in this chapter, you will have a chance to see how your family patterns were healthy or unhealthy. You will learn Transformational Journaling techniques to choose how you want to do, be, feel, think or act differently. There’s a picture in the eBook to help you understand dysfunctional and functional.

Family/Individual Development

Identifying the differences between functional and dysfunctional family systems requires a basic understanding of the developmental stages of each family member plus the developmental stages of the family. These two development processes are happening at the same time. They often lead to confusion, miscommunication, and misunderstanding in families. When you understand these processes, you are able to better manage the tasks of each stage.

Types Of Families That Produce Dysfunctional Behavior Patterns

You learn about the four types of family systems that produce dysfunctional adults. You identify your dysfunctional family patterns. You use Transformational Journaling “Focus Points” to determine how you can vary those patterns toward the healthy/functional patterns presented.

These behavior patterns follow what you learned as a child about your role in the family in order to survive. Adult children survive in life and DESPERATELY try to find out how to live life without the necessary tools to do so. Sound familiar?

Families Take Lots of Work

Contrary to popular belief, families are actually quite complicated. There are a lot of pieces to weave together. Just think about all the people you know and the differences in each of their families. Variety is certainly the spice of life when it comes to families.

Besides all those differences in families, you have all the individual members growing, developing, and having their own personalities. Add to the mix the personality of the family, the personality of the families the parents grew up in, and their ancestors. It’s sometimes amazing we all come out as good as we do.

But…add the additional dysfunctions of substance abuse/chemical dependency, childhood abuse/neglect, chronic physical or mental illness, and authoritarian families and you increase the potential for problems that can seem overwhelming.

Take your Transformational Journaling to the next level! Do this in the 6 week “Your Soul Transformed” teleseminar where You are guided to clarify all the steps in Your Inner Journey. Sign up here and join me as I walk with you just like I did with my Adult Children groups.

Peace and contentment on your journey,

Debra

P.S. You will want to invest in Your Re-Created Life to Gain the most from “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey”

P.P.S. The 6 week teleseminar starts soon. Sign up here

Get Ready to "Journey Down Your Self-Discovery Path"

2008-08-25T15:06:00.009-06:00

Get Ready to “Journey Down Your Self-Discovery Path”

The time is here to step out onto Your path. Put the Transformational Journaling Techniques to work in Your Life Today. We’ll be walking down the path at the pace you set. This is your journey. You take charge. Just let me know what questions or comments you have along the way. I’m available at drdebra@houseofpeacepubs.com or by phone 719-647-0652 (Mountain time—USA).

Chapter Three starts you with some basic Transformational Journaling techniques. Each technique is followed by a “Focus Point” to help you learn how it works. Let’s take a peek inside.

Chapter III

Journey Down Your Self-Discovery Path

Guide To Your Self-Dicovery Path

Gather Your Tools

Write Your Life Story

Issues, Issues-- Do They Ever Go Away

What Are You Feeling Today?

Hmm—Pondering Life

Journey Down Your Self-Discovery Path

Your journey to transform your soul begins when you start journaling. This is your personal path of self-discovery. Transformational Journaling is the method I used to identify the life events and the impacts they had on my functioning. Now, that sounds pretty overwhelming on first blush. Find out how Mrs. H. Transformed her Soul and Re-Created her life in the eBook “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey”.

Guide To Your Soul Transformation Path

This is a lifetime process of discovering who you are. The process occurs on a continuum. You can be at many points on the continuum depending on the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing at any given time. As soul transformation progresses, you spend more time at the self-love end of the continuum than at the denial end. The process of soul transformation goes through five stages I explain in detail in the book.

You are provided a healing framework designed especially for you and specific tools to use in your healing process. Tools, including specific journaling methods, are given and how to put them into practice is provided through Focus Points.

Transformation Tools

Adult children need to trust their instincts and find healthy ways out of the dysfunctional patterns. Transformational Journaling provides the techniques to identify and adopt healthy life patterns.

Transformational Journaling is a process of internal inquiry about life events and the impacts they have on your functioning. There are a number of techniques offered in the eBook, "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey", you may find useful at different times in the journey to transform your soul.

Explore and work with each technique to find out what helps in your Soul Transformation. This journal is not designed to take the place of working with a mental health therapist. However, you may find this journal helpful in your therapy sessions.

My wish for you is you will find these Transformational Journaling techniques helpful in your Soul Transformation. Many of my psychotherapy clients were able to move more quickly through their Soul Transformation using Transformational Journaling techniques.

Gather Your Tools

What are the specific tools to guide a person through Soul Transformation? These take many different forms. What I found most useful is a combination of techniques.

I provide Focus Points throughout the eBook to apply in your own Soul Transformation process.

Plan to write daily for ten to fifteen minutes in the beginning just to become acquainted with your life as you are presently living it.

Use the Focus Points in the book, like this one, to help you get started.

TJ Focus Points—Use Stream-of-consciousness writing

· Write about what happened in your day

· Who did you encounter?

· Were there any significant issues that you were able to identify?

Learn the next step for using this tool in the eBook “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey” available online at www.yoursoultransformed.com/innerjourneybook_dw.htm.

You are given alternative recovery tools including use of affirmations and guided imagery.

You experience the use of these tools in teleseminars.

More about the teleseminars next time.

Your Guide on Your Path to Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life,

Debra

P.S. Take 10-15 minutes to write out your response to your first “Focus Point”

P.P.S. Just let me know what questions or comments you have along the way. I’m available at drdebra@houseofpeacepubs.com or by phone 719-647-0652 (Mountain time—USA).

Join me on Your Inner Journey: “Come Play In My Sandbox”

2008-08-20T11:47:00.010-06:00

Join me on Your Inner Journey: “Come Play In My Sandbox” where you find out more about who are adult children and what are dysfunctional families. This brief overview gives you an idea of what to look forward to on Your Inner Journey.

Chapter II

Come Play In My Sandbox

Start With Family

Are You An Adult Child From A Dysfunctional Family (ACDF)?

Who Are Adult Children And How Are They A Part Of The Dysfunctional Family Cycle?

The Dysfunctional Family Cycle

Mood -Altering--What Was Your Choice?

Here’s a brief look at Chapter II

Start With Family

We all learn from our families we grew up in how to be, think, do, feel, behave, give, and have in this world. Families give us our behavior patterns, our thinking patterns, our doing patterns, our feeling patterns, our attitude patterns, our giving patterns, and our having patterns. Some families do this in a functional or healthy way and other families do this in dysfunctional or unhealthy ways. Most families fall somewhere in between.

Are You An Adult Child From A Dysfunctional Family (ACDF)?

I want to help you understand the specific ACDF patterns. You can begin to identify these patterns in current contacts and determine changes of your choice toward healthier functioning.

Who Are Adult Children And How Are They A Part Of The Dysfunctional Family Cycle?

Adult children engage in a series of behavior patterns that become rigid and inflexible to allow a sense of being in control of their life. In actuality, their life is totally out-of-control.

Do these shoes fit you? Then, you are reading the right book. When I first learned about adult children, I was surprised to find myself in this group. My parents lead me to believe our family was normal, healthy, and the model to follow to raise my children. Of course, the denial about sexual abuse/incest was never discussed. How dysfunctional is that?

The Dysfunctional Family Cycle

The dysfunctional family cycle is the multigenerational multiplication of unhealthy behavior patterns. This means for every generation which is dysfunctional, more dysfunction is passed on to the next generation. These adults re-enact the dysfunctional family patterns in their daily lives.

Mood -Altering--What Was Your Choice?

Adult children fail to focus on their own emotional needs. They focus on something or someone outside of themselves. This allows them to mood-alter and avoid handling their own life and personal growth.

With Mood-altering behaviors, adult children allow their life to be controlled by work, home, family, church, school, recreation and anything or anyone that will keep them from considering their own emotional, physical, and spiritual needs. When their primary focus in life is on existing and trying to fit in with the rest of the world, they lose contact with the person they are and the harmony that comes from being in touch with their own reality. They are focused totally on reality outside themselves.

Do You fit into this picture? If your answer is yes, you are in the right place to Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life. Join me in my Sandbox and bring Your Sense of Humor along. It’s okay to laugh and Move On to functional living.

Go Now to Invest in Yourself to Live a Life of Choice. Get your copy of “From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey”I’m looking forward to being your guide.

Peace and joy,

Debra

P.S. How did you see yourself fitting into this picture?

P.P.S. You will want to have your Journal/notebook right away—Go find that special one just for You!

P.P.P.S. Contact the office: info@houseofpeacepubs.com or 719-647-0652 (Mountain time)

In as little as 10-15 minutes a day, You can Enhance Your Healing, Transform Your Soul to Re-Create Your Life of Conscious Choice

2008-08-18T15:12:00.008-06:00

In as little as 10-15 minutes a day, You can Enhance Your Healing, Transform Your Soul to Re-Create Your Life of Conscious Choice

Now You Have Available to You What hundreds of my clients
gained from Adult Children From Dysfunctional Family Groups

From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey holds the keys
to Discover how to Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life of Conscious Choice

Here’s a preview of Chapter One.

Chapter I

Go With The Flow

Transformational Journaling Development

Have you ever found yourself resisting suggestions from friends and family
because you wanted to do it your own way? Learn how others just like You
discovered how they could find many answers through Transformational Journaling.

Go With The Flow to start Your Inner Journey.
I’ll be here to guide you step-by-step along the way.

Transformational Journaling Development

What is transformational journaling?

Transformational Journaling is a series of techniques developed to help You
heal from dysfunctional family patterns. There are techniques to help You

Identify various patterns
Connect with your dysfunctional thoughts and feelings—the ones you continually repeat even when you are no longer living with your family
Tools to move your life to the next level, Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life of
Conscious Choice.

Transformational Journaling Development

The Transformational Journaling techniques in
From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey
were put together for psychoeducation groups offered to
adults from alcoholic, abusive, and other dysfunctional family backgrounds.

Over twelve weeks, adults learned about their family patterns while growing up.

They used these tools to Transform their Souls and Re-Create their Lives through Conscious Choice.

Now You have an opportunity to apply these techniques in your daily life.

Focus Points

Throughout From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey,
there are Focus Points to give you a taste of Transformational Journaling.
You develop your journaling techniques step-by-step.

You learn to identify specific Adult Children from Dysfunctional Families (ACDF) behaviors, feelings, and patterns you adopted as a child.

You start identifying these behaviors, feelings, and patterns
in current life situations and determine changes of your
choice toward healthier functioning.

Take your healing to the next level when you invest in
“From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey” by going to: http://yoursoultransformed.com/innerjourneybook_dw.htm

I’ll be waiting there to guide you on Your Journey as
You Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life of Conscious Choice.

Peace and joy,

Debra

P.S. Get started today when you invest in yourself at http://yoursoultransformed.com/innerjourneybook_dw.htm

P.P.S. Contact me with questions or comments drdebra@houseofpeacepubs.com

or call the office 719-647-0652 (Mountain Time—USA)

More about "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey"

2008-08-13T12:49:00.009-06:00

More about "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey"

Excitement is mounting to get
"From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey".
After viewing the title of a book,
I know the next thing I do when I look at a
new book is check the back to learn
about the author :>)

Since you already know that part,
here's the Table of Contents.
That's my next stop to see if this book interests me.

Check down below here to get all the details.
You'll want to be among the first to get the
book so you can take advantage of...
one of the bonuses starting August 26.
More about that inside the book.

Take a minute to look over what's in the book.
Then head on over to pick up your copy.
Invest in Your Soul Transformation to
Re-Create the Life You Choose.
Then head on over and pick up your copy.

Table of Contents

Chapter I

Go With The Flow

Transformational Journaling Development

Chapter II

Come Play In My Sandbox

Start With Family

Are You An Adult Child From A Dysfunctional Family (ACDF)?

Who Are Adult Children and How Are They A Part Of The Dysfunctional Family Cycle?

The Dysfunctional Family Cycle

Mood -Altering--What Was Your Choice?

Chapter III

Journey Down Your Self-Discovery Path

Guide to your self-dicovery path

Gather Your Tools

Write Your Life Story

Issues, Issues-- Do They Ever Go Away

What Are You Feeling Today?

Hmm—Pondering Life

Chapter IV

Oh The Complicated Web We Weave

Family System Patterns

Family/Individual Development

Types Of Families That Produce Dysfunctional Behavior Patterns

Families Take Lots Of Work

Chapter V

Does Your Family Put The Fun In DysFunctional?

All About Your Family

Your Family Theater

Rules Of The Family Game

Chapter VI

Wake Up Your Feelings

A Picture Speaks A Thousand Words

Create Your Own Feeling Pictures

Whose Feeling Is It Anyway?

Life Moves On

Chapter VII

Thoughts Create Reality

Set Healthy Limits

Teeter-Totter Thoughts

Chapter VIII

Keep Your Path Of Choice

A Look On The Positive Side

Create Your Harmonious Lifestyle

To Share Or Not To Share—That Is The Question

Chapter IX

Move Forward On Your Path Of Choice

I look forward to being your guide on your journey
to Re-Create Your Life.

Peace and joy,
Debra
Author, Speaker, Emoti-Trainer

P.S. Your copy of "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey"
is waiting for you.

P.S. Here's the link again.
http://yoursoultransformed.com/innerjourneybook_dw.htm

Are You Ready to Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life?

2008-08-12T16:18:00.006-06:00

Are You Ready to Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life?

I know you knew I was off finishing up the book
I wrote especially for You.

Before I tell you the name of the book and
how you can get your copy,
I want you to know there are some exclusive
bonuses included with the book.
No one else is able to take advantage of these bonuses.

Over the last few months, you've received several
Transformational Journaling Tips on this blog.
In the book, I turned those into "Focus Points"
to move you along your journey to Re-Create Your Life.

But, that's just one bonus inside the book. There are
more "Focus Points" tied to additional bonuses, and.......
you learn about those in Your copy of the book.

I can hear you now....Debra, what is the title?
I won't make you wait any longer.....
Drum roll please....the title was chosen from a special
survey and the majority ruled....

Get instant access to the eBook
"From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey"
http://yoursoultransformed.com/innerjourneybook_dw.htm

Be sure to review the book for all the special bonuses
waiting for you.

Enjoy your Journey.
Remember, I am your guide on Your path to
Transform Your Soul and Re-Create Your Life
through Conscious Choice.

Peace and joy,
Doc Deb

P.S. Go right now and invest in Yourself

P.P.S. Here's the link again
http://yoursoultransformed.com/innerjourneybook_dw.htm

I'm bursting to tell you

2008-07-30T10:01:00.001-06:00

I'm bursting to tell you the name of my new book...

But before I do, I want you to know things are
getting back to normal--What's that?--oh, 98.6!

Chuck is back to work after knee replacement surgery.
We're both celebrating!! He loves what he does and
missed being there for his clients.

That means, I am full time pulling together the
last few details before my book is released...

You know when you transform your soul and
re-create your life, there's always little details.

So while I'm busy dotting all the "I's" and
crossing all the "T's", you'll be getting messages
from me about what you can look forward to in the book.

Here's a little tidbit from the book.
There are multiple "Focus Points" throughout the book
to guide you on your Transformational Journaling path.

Here's a sample:
My health would be different if I....
Today, I make the following commitment to .....

Gotta run--the details are calling...

Doc Deb
Author, Speaker, Transformational Emoti-trainer
Your Guide to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life
www.yoursoultransformed.com

P.S. Oh, the title...Shhh...I'm still keeping it a secret....

How long does healing take?

2008-07-17T14:59:00.003-06:00

Hello Life Re-Creator,

How long does healing take?
I am asked this question by just about everyone
I talk to about their own healing journey.
My response is everyone has their own path and timetable.
What I do know is you can heal if that is your choice.

No one ever promised it would be easy.
However, it is simple if you take it day-by-day
a step at a time. There are no miracles.
I was never given a magic wand.
My focus is to guide you on the path and
keep yourself moving through your work.

My journey this last month left me torn between
caring for my husband and staying connected with my work.
Although I have missed staying in touch with you,
I have good news.

I completed my book "From Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey".
Please watch for announcements when it will be released.
Right now, I am working on the behind the scenes pieces.
Stay tuned for more...

In the meantime, here is another Transformational Journaling Tip
for you...
In my family, we handled problems by ________
In the future, I want to handle problems by _______

Until next time...

To your Transformed Soul and Re-Created Life,
Doc Deb
Your guide to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life
http://www.yoursoultransformed.com

P.S. You can get my scholarship driven eCourse when you go to http://www.yoursoultransformed.com and take the assessment

P.P.S. Sign up for my Blog to stay informed about my book release.

Healing--It takes as long as it takes

2008-06-24T08:40:00.004-06:00

Hello Life Transformers,

Over this past week, I learned just how much
time it can take to heal.
Before we get to my lesson,
here's what is happening.

My husband awoke about 7 weeks ago with
terrible pain in his knee.
He knew there was a problem because
his doctor treated his painful knee over the past two years.
But..this time it was different.

He went to the doctor that day.
X-rays showed lots of arthritis and
he was referred to a specialist.
The specialist took his own x-rays and told us
he must get in right away for knee replacement surgery.

Last Monday, June 16, we arrived at the hospital
expecting a 3-5 day stay.
Little did we know how slowly his healing would progress.
Watching Chuck learn to walk again pointed out to me,
we can only heal as fast as our body is ready.

So, here is what I learned...
whether we're healing our body, mind, or spirit,
we go at the pace we are ready to go.
Hurrying through the healing work sets us back,
just like Chuck pushed too hard yesterday.
Today, he must slow down.

Push yourself to your limits,
just don't go overboard.
Everyone has their own timetable for healing.
Find your own pace. Each of us is different.

To your Transformed Soul and Re-Created Life,
Doc Deb
Your guide to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life
http://www.yoursoultransformed.com

P.S. You can get my scholarship driven eCourse when you go to http://www.yoursoultransformed.com and take the assessment

P.P.S. Sign up for my Blog to stay informed about my book release.

Now is your Chance for...

2008-06-06T14:26:00.004-06:00

Now is your chance for a sneak peek at my upcoming book.
I'm bursting with news, just like my garden is bursting out all over.
When I first planted my garden, there were only 3 small plants, and now they are going way outside their boundaries.

When we heal from childhood trauma and dysfunctional families, we feel like we want to burst outside our boundaries. Transformational Journaling is a special tool you use to move your healing forward to be all you can be.

This week I was talking with someone who is using the Transformational
Journaling techniques to move his healing forward. He struggles with an
issue many trauma survivors face on our healing journey--feeling good
about ourselves. I suggested he write out all his accomplishments in his life.
He was surprised because he was looking at his life from what he still wants to do.

Keeping a balanced view of your life is important to your healing.

Your Transformational Journaling Tip this week:
Write a list of all your accomplishments in your life up to today.

About that gift coming to you in my book...you can learn more when
my book is released just in time for Summer Solstice.

Have a beautiful, sunny week.

Peace and joy,
Doc Deb
Your guide to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life
http://www.yoursoultransformed.com

P.S. You can get my scholarship driven eCourse when you go to http://www.yoursoultransformed.com and take the assessment

P.P.S. Sign up for my Blog to stay informed about my book release.

You are like a Bud about to Flower, you Re-Create your Life

2008-05-21T12:51:00.005-06:00

Spring is a wonderful time of year to start your journey to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life. I have a Clematis vine planted on the side of my house. Every year as the earth warms, I watch for the buds to appear, grow to full size, and open to beautiful purple flowers.

This year as I watched this unfolding, it reminded me of the transformation that occurs with the Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls TM system. First, you are like a bud tightly closed and protecting yourself from the elements. As you start to grow, you reveal just a part of yourself. The longer you are on your journey, the more you connect with the beauty of your real self. Finally, you open up completely to be the beautiful flower you were meant to be.

Become a beautiful flower in full bloom. Be sure to take your free assessment to find out where you are on your path to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life. Just go to http://www.yoursoultransformed.com.

I look forward to guiding you along the path to a choice-filled life.

Peace and beauty,
Doc Deb
Author, Speaker, Emoti-trainer

Up and Down, Up and Down

2008-05-16T16:29:00.004-06:00

Hello from Colorado, the Up and Down state,

Colorado is known for its' mountains.
However, I live on the down part of Colorado--the plains.
That's one of the up and down situations in my life.
Lately, our Colorado weather--
warm during the day requiring air conditioning,
and cool at night requiring heat reminded me
of the healing process.

Healing from child abuse, addictions, or
dysfunctional families is
an up and down experience.
We go up when we discover a hurtful
family pattern we no longer need.
We go down when it seems like
healing takes forever.

Transformational Journaling helps us
keep moving forward with our healing.
We can look back in our journals to see
where we were a month or more ago.
We know there are ups and downs and this is
just one of those times before we move forward.
Over time, the ups are more a part of our lives
and the downs seem to shrink in size.

Sometimes it is good to pause and look where you came from.
Review your Transformational Journal to see
how you are having more ups than downs.

TJ Tip--I reviewed my Transformational Journal and
saw I am making progress in my healing in the following areas:

Your guide to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life,
Doc Deb
http://www.yoursoultransformed.com

P. S. Keep an eye out for announcements about my book launch.

P.P.S. Enjoy your Ups and know they happen more often the further you go in healing.

Did Doc Deb fall off the face of the earth?

2008-05-08T15:07:00.004-06:00

It may seem like the winds of Pueblo West blew me away.
However, I managed to hold on and keep my feet on the ground.
Actually, I've been up to my eyeballs finishing up my book so
you would have all the information at your fingertips
to guide your transformational journaling experience.

I took a short break to let you know I am still here.
I welcome your questions and comments on this blog.

The good news is I'm almost ready to release my book to you.
I have some finishing touches before I send it to my editors next week.
After that, it's just a matter of a few days before the eBook version is available. Bear with me a few more days while I make your guide to
Transformational Journaling just right for you.

In the meantime, go and take the "Your Soul Transformed"
assessment at http://www.yoursoultransformed.com. Be sure to
click on the link of your free report to qualify for the scholarship
driven eCourse tied to your free assessment report.
Over 7 days, you receive a technique a day to get you started on
transforming your soul and re-creating your life.

Keep checking back for more Transformational Journaling tips.

Your guide to Transform your Soul and Re-create your Life,
Doc Deb

P.S. Be sure to head right over to http://www.yoursoultransformed.com to take your assessment.

P.P.S. Look for special messages about my book release.

Start your journey--Transform your Soul--Re-Create your Life

2008-04-29T11:36:00.005-06:00

Your Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls
journey begins now!

I know it's been a while since I started sharing with you
about the four stages of Transformational Journaling
for Healing Souls. The four stages are:
Stage 1=Past trauma healing for recovering souls
Stage 2=Current issues healing for recovered souls
Stage 3=Couple/relationship healing for recovered souls
Stage 4=Parent/family healing for recovered souls

You begin your journey today through Stage 1 when you
take the complimentary assessment to determine where you
are in your journey. Just go right over to http://www.yoursoultransformed.com
and start your journey now.

See you on the path,
Doc Deb
Your guide on your journey to
Transform your Soul and
Re-Create your Life

P.S. Be sure to head right over to http://www.yoursoultransformed.com to get started.

P.P.S. Look for special messages from me along your journey.

Re-Create your Life

2008-04-18T14:40:00.003-06:00

Change
Build a new habit
Do something differently
Re-Create your Life

What is the theme behind these four phrases?
We'll come back to the theme in a minute...
Last week we reorganized the cupboard under the kitchen sink.
We moved the trash can from the right side to the left side.
No big deal, you say.
Just remember to open the left side door.

I find about once or twice a day
I open the left door first.
I make a conscious choice.
The rest of the time I open the right door,
remember the reorganization and open the
left door to put trash in the can.

What does this have to do with change, new habits,
doing something differently, or
Re-Creating your Life?
Each one requires conscious choice.

When you make a conscious choice to
Re-Create your Life,
you choose what you want to do differently.
You make a change and build a new habit.
It takes time to build an automatic response.

I'll let you know when I stop opening the right door first.

TJ Focus point:
Identify a habit you want to change--
I want to change my habit of ___________
I want to do it differently by ___________
to Re-Create my life through conscious choice.

Peace and joy,
Doc Deb
Author, Speaker, Transformational Emoti-trainer
www.yoursoultransformed.com

P.S. Do you have your free report from
Your Soul Transformed Healing assessment?
Go here to take the assessment and receive
your fr*ee report.

P.P.S. Find out how you can move your recovery
to the next level when you register for
"A Taste of Transformational Journaling" teleconference--
look for the link at the end of your fr*ee assessment report.

Domestic Violence and Child Abuse: More student comments

2008-04-15T15:32:00.003-06:00

Several students expressed concern about the lack of services.

Sarah Frazier asked: “Why is there such a lack of help (i.e., shelters) and support from the communities to be able to stop this epidemic?

Akia Calhoun learned “that domestic violence is a community problem and we have to start with prevention and education”.

Barbara Dean realized “something is being done to make changes.”

Kacy Leaver found “that everyone is affected by domestic violence and as a community we have to learn and donate more to the cause. Domestic violence and child abuse go hand in hand. We need to step up and volunteer and learn about both in order to make changes.”

There are many services available to domestic violence victims, child witness-victims, and perpetrators. However, these students make a very important point. The services available need more community involvement, more funds, and prevention education lags behind the need. This is true for all the human service areas. We can decrease child abuse and domestic violence victimization through prevention efforts.

Prevention education and early intervention do work. It takes money and people power to make it happen. You can help by contacting your child abuse or domestic violence services in your community. Learn all you can about available programs and the issues they address. Speak out in your community to make a difference by bringing issues to community leaders. Keep asking what else can be done and mobilize to make your community one where children and adults are protected from abuse and violence.

Go here to find a place to start in your community with child abuse prevention or domestic violence prevention.

Bring peace and joy to all families,
Doc Deb

Author, Speaker, Transformational Emoti-trainer

www.yoursoultransformed.com

Questions about Domestic Violence related to Child Abuse

2008-04-11T14:16:00.008-06:00

These questions came from the university students I spoke to about Domestic Violence. Before I share the question of the day, I want you to know these are questions I've heard many times. We have answers to some questions and are still searching for answers to others.

Halie Erdman asked "What are the characteristics of an abuser that you can recognize before getting into the relationship?" Halie, this is a great question everyone needs to know the answer before they start dating. We all know how easy it is to get so caught up in a new relationship that the rest of the people in our life take a back seat. Here's a good place to look for subtle signs of power and control.

Picture this: you and your new boyfriend don't want to be apart, even for a minute. At least that's how it seems. He tells you he doesn't want you spending time with anyone else, even your girlfriends or your family. Red Flag!!

Being overly possessive or jealous to the point of wanting you to move in with him or he wants to move in with you before the relationship has time to develop is a good time to take a step back and look at what's going on. Watch out if he starts telling you he loves you before he knows you. Love takes time to develop. Abusers take hostages because they can only keep up the nice guy front for a short period of time.

Pushing for sexual activity before you are ready is another way the abuser takes control. You have a right to say no or not yet. If your date or new friend continues to push, you push him away and run the other way as fast as you can.

Does your date or new friend push you to drink or take drugs even when you say no? Do you feel pressured to drink or drug more than you want? These are huge red flags about power and control. Substance abuse and domestic violence are closely connected.

Here's one that caught me up short. I was dating a man who was very possessive. He didn't like my daughter around because it interfered with his time controlling me. He started telling me how to spend my money on activities for her so she would be out of the house.

First, he wanted to control my relationship with my daughter. Second, he wanted to control how I spent my income. I threw him out!!

Take a good look at the power and control wheel. Are any of those happening in your relationship? Here's an example Domestic Violence Power and Control Wheel. Stop the relationship before it goes any further. The sooner you get out, the better.

Here's the hook to keep you involved--you see his potential or what he can possibly be if he would just (blank). You fill in the blank. Remember, he will only change if he wants to. You have no control over him. Most abusers won't change until they are forced, usually by the courts, to look at their problems. Then, they have to want to change or they just do their time.

Watch for more questions and answers.

Your TJ Tip for today:
Make a list of "want to have" in a relationship.
Make another list of "won't have" in a relationship.
Ask yourself if you are in a relationship with someone who meets most of your requirements for "want to have" or "won't have". What choice do you want to make for a good relationship for you?

To your Transformed Soul and Re-Created Life.

Peace and joy,

Doc Deb

Author, Speaker, Transformational Emoti-trainer

P.S. Have you taken your healing assessment?

Find it at

www.yoursoultransformed.com

It's here!! Visit our new site!

2008-04-04T14:50:00.002-06:00

Hello Fellow Re-Creators,

It's time to let you in on...
what we were doing the past few months.
We put together a fabulous new web site
strictly focused to help you...
Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life.

I know you're wondering exactly what is going on.
Just go to http://yoursoultransformed.com
and check out our new
Transformational Journaling Healing Assessment.
Be sure and take your assessment,
fill in your information to get your free report.

More excitement--
At the end of your free report, be sure to register
for the F^ree teleconference call coming up next week.
I'm so excited to have you on this call with me.

You will get , first hand, tips on Transformational Journaling.
I really spill the beans and let you in on all the secrets to
take your soul transformation to the next level.

Bring peace, joy, and contentment into your life
as you learn the techniques that transformed my soul
and helped me Re-Create my Life.
Now, they come to you right from the source.

Peaceful weekend,

Debra Wingfield

Your guide to

Transform your Soul and

Re-Create your Life

http://yoursoultransformed.com

University students respond--Some were SHOCKED!!

2008-04-03T13:27:00.005-06:00

Hello Fellow Re-Creators,

Remember last month, I told you I was asked to speak to 2 university classes.
Yesterday was the day I talked with them about Domestic Violence and the

link with Child Abuse.

I'll share a few of their comments here today.

Kristina Weiss said: "I did not know that so many people are being hurt, especially in such large numbers. What really shocked me was the fact that children all the way up to seniors are being abused!"

Halie Erdman commented: "That not only adult women are abused, that abuse affects everyone."

Ryann Frank echoes Halie: "Abuse happens in all age groups."

Sarah Frazier sees the crux of the problem: "We need to stop the problem at a local level before we can even think about preventing it at a national level."

A student who remained anonymous summarized the whole presentation: "Impact of abuse of partners on children. Even just arguing/verbal aggressiveness and what it does to the children."

And finally, another student remaining anonymous: "Partner abuse make children 1500 times more likely to be abused. It was useful to learn that you must work with the family and not just a child."

As future leaders, I was impressed with the students concerns....more about that next time.

Transformational Journaling is the system I used as a professional counselor with my clients to help them heal. It works with domestic violence victims, perpetrators, and children.

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Peace and well-being,

Debra Wingfield

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Transform your Soul and

Re-Create your Life

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Transform your Soul--Re-Create your Life

2008-03-28T14:42:00.003-06:00

Hello Precious Soul,

This past week was amazing. Our granddaughter (almost 14) visited us from North Carolina. We granted her special wish to come to Colorado and play in the snow. She attracted just the right amount of snow each day of her visit. Her first ever skiing trip was an overwhelming success. Accomplished skiers praised her for going way past new skier expectations. Of course, I'm definitely happy to brag as a proud grandmother.

Miss B (our nickname for her) showed me what tenacity and persistence can do. She knew what she wanted and went after it.

Do you know what you want to Transform your Soul and Re-Create your Life? You may have some idea of what lies ahead for you on your healing path...but, there is more that is revealed when you use me as your guide.

Stay tuned for the launch of our new web site where you can assess where you are in your transformation. There is much more I will be sharing with you in the days to come.

Happy weekend,

Debra Wingfield

Author, Speaker, Transformational Journaling Emoti-trainer

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Transformational Journaling Tip-March, 2008

2008-03-21T09:09:00.001-06:00

Hello Life Re-Creators,

The earth is transforming to spring in the U.S.
What were the leadership choices you made
last month to transform your soul and re-create
your life?

Transforming your soul is much like the transformation
that occurs as the ground warms and the flowers begin to
peek out of the ground. You begin to see new sides to
yourself as you peek beneath the masks you wear.

What do you want to transform in your life this month?

Your focus point for March is

I am open to transform the following in my life.....

Please feel free to share or comment on my blog

Until next month,

Peace and light,

DocDeb

P.S. I would love to hear your questions or leave a comment as
you transform your soul and re-create your life of choice.

Gratitude for life lessons

2008-03-19T11:20:00.003-06:00

Welcome to spring in the U.S.

Tomorrow is the vernal equinox, the changing of the seasons.
It brings to mind all the changes I made in transforming my soul,
and Re-Creating my life.

Those changes occurred with the lessons I was learning living each day.
some were fast and some took a very long time.
Some lessons were easier than others.
Sometimes my resistance to the lesson made it take longer to learn.

What was the positive impact on me as a result of all those lessons.
I am here today to share with you about life.
Life with its ups and downs.
Life with unexpected twists.

If my life experience did not happen, I wouldn't be able to share
the joys of healing and transformation that occurs when you decide
to take control of your life and make conscious choices to Re-Create
the life of your dreams.

Through the Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls system,
you can take control of your life and make conscious choices to live the
life of your dreams.

Post a comment today about what your choice is and when you plan to take it.
Then go to houseofpeacepubs.com and start your journey to Transform your Soul,
and Re-Create your Life.

Peace and gratitude,
Doc Deb
Emoti-trainer, Author, Speaker

Gratitude for the little things

2008-03-18T14:53:00.003-06:00

Hello Fellow Re-Creators,

Today as I sit working in my office, I am reminded of the little things I hold gratitude for in my heart. My kitties surround my office with quiet contentment. One lies nestled, as always, under my desk lamp enjoying the warmth. He is grateful we rescued him from a cold, wintry, snowy Christmas eve. He shows his gratitude by always finding the warmest spots in the house.

My other kitty is sleeping on the sunny windowsill of my office on a soft piece of fleece. He loves the softness and being close to me. Whenever I am sitting on the couch, he waits to curl up in my lap covered by a fleece blanket. We rescued him from the cold a few years ago in December. He would sneak in the house while I was working whenever the back door was left open for our old cat who is no longer with us. He wanted to find a warm place to be.

What does all this have to do with Transforming your Soul and Re-Creating your Life? Both our cats transformed their souls when they found a warm, loving home. They are content in the quiet, calm atmosphere of our home which exists because of the Transformations we made in our souls when we went through recovery.

You have the opportunity to engage in the experience of transforming your soul and re-creating your life as I unveil the

Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls TM system to you. The pre-launch is just about complete. Be sure to watch for the announcement coming to this blog soon.

Peace and joy,

Doc Deb

Author, Speaker, Transformational Emoti-trainer

Receiving Gifts with Gratitude

2008-03-17T14:17:00.003-06:00

Hello Fellow Re-Creators,

Yesterday we celebrated our only grandson's birthday. Every family has traditions about celebrations. Birthdays can be very special or cause for tension and stress.

Early in my recovery in Al-Anon, we talked about birthdays we missed or felt sad about. I remember leaving that meeting and deciding to throw a special birthday party for myself that year.

I wanted to celebrate my 6th birthday in a different way than I remembered. I transformed my day by sending out invitations to my 6th birthday party. My request was to come dressed as desired for the occasion and prepared to play based on age 6. (This connects with the dysfunctional family rule about "it's not o.k. to play and have fun" and how you can Re-Create it in your life. Find out more about Family Rules in my book.)

My friends arrived for cake, ice cream, and fun and games. We pinned the tail on the donkey and played button, button, who's got the button. We all loved the party.

Today, I remember my 6th birthday fondly with lots of great friends. I have a lot of gratitude and appreciation for the support of my Al-Anon friends who helped me heal.

What are you grateful for in your healing?

Until next time,

Peace and happiness,
Doc Deb
Author, Speaker, Transformational Edutrainer

" Transformational Journaling for Recovering Souls: 15 Guided Techniques to Recreate your Life"

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A Taste of Transformational Journaling--Watch for the launch

2008-03-11T11:57:00.007-06:00

Hello Fellow Re-Creators,

Time is flying fast toward the launch of
"A Taste of Transformational Journaling" f ree teleconference.

With all the behind the scenes work to prepare a great teleconference,
some great bonuses if you are on the call, and....
oops, I almost let the secret out!

I am so excited to bring you live, in person....
the author of "Transformational Journaling for Recovering Souls".
Listen to my story from incest survivor to Re-Creator.
Learn how to Re-Create your life of conscious choice.

More information to come....

Peace and joy,
Doc Deb
Author, Edutrainer, Speaker

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Child Abuse Domestic Violence Link

2008-02-29T15:45:00.004-07:00

Hello Fellow Recreators,

Today I agreed to speak to 2 college classes about domestic violence. Why domestic violence when my focus is child abuse. Because there is a direct link between the two. I didn't realize what a setup being incested was for finding a relationship partner who was abusive. In fact, I married two abusive men before I caught on.

I was in my recovery program and did my therapy before I figured this part of my life out. At the time it knocked me up the side of the head, I was counseling a woman who was in an abusive marriage. I wanted to find something for her to read to help her make sense of what was going on. Patricia Evans just published her book The Verbally Abusive Relationship. http://www.patriciaevans.com/

Before I gave my client the book to read, I read it! It was a real eye opener to both my marriages. While things bordered on physical abuse in both marriages, clearly verbal abuse was a part of both. At this point I asked myself why I stuck around so long. My answer: I knew how to be a victim.

When I started teaching about domestic violence to counselors and college students, I found there is a strong link between being abused as a child, especially sexually abused, and being a victim of domestic violence. If you have questions about your relationship, put it on the blog. We can all help each other stop abuse in our lives and carry the message to others to stop abuse in their lives.

Until next time,

Peace and joy,
Doc Deb

Edutrainer, Speaker, Transformational Journaling Mentor

P.S. Watch for a special announcement next week

P.P.S. Learn how to do Transformational Journaling

Every 40 seconds a child is abused in the U.S.

2008-02-23T22:15:00.010-07:00

“Children are our greatest natural resource. Every child has the right to grow up and reach his or her greatest potential.” Claire R. Reeves
President/Founder/Chief Executive Officer, Mothers Against Sexual Abuse, MASA

I started my recovery from incest 24 years ago. Step-by-step I’ve revealed my pain and shame. It’s taken me 24 years to speak out in public to total strangers about my life experience. The pain and shame of being sexually abused, not believed, and the power and control of my father—my abuser contributed to my silence.

My silence was a burden I never asked for, I never deserved. It is this burden that abusers count on. When members of our society turn their heads, miss the signs, and live in ignorance, abusers are allowed to continue their perpetration of sexual abuse unchecked. Instead of holding perpetrators accountable, innocent children suffer in silence. Those innocent children grow up to be part of the 39 million adults in this country alone who carry the burden of being abused as children.

Those 39 million adults are impacted with

· Mental health issues

· Physical health issues

· Economic issues

· Relationship issues

· Criminal issues

· Employment issues

· Social issues

· Substance abuse issues

· Family violence issues

· Multigenerational transmission of abuse

· Education issues

Child abuse impacts everyone and crosses the entire fabric of society. Child abuse is a major social problem that requires a much stronger approach to prevention. An approach we must place at the head of the agenda for turning our society around and saving children from torture, soul murder, and neglect.

As a society, we have developed numerous programs to address child abuse. These are programs and services to intervene with perpetrators and treat victims. Sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t.

Prevention programs attempt to educate the public about the impacts and effects of child abuse. However, they struggle for funding and their resources are spread too thin.

Recently, our governor called on the people of our state to increase exercise and reduce obesity in our state. He referred to obesity and the physical health effects reaching epidemic proportions in this country. I agree we have an extremely serious problem with obesity. However, Felliti & Anda, et. al., (1998) found that adults would stop weight loss programs when they started to feel unprotected with their weight loss. These researchers assessed the patients in the program to find out why they stopped losing weight.

What they discovered may astound you. Of the 17,337, patients assessed they discovered the following per cent for each category experienced a history of the following adverse childhood events (ACE)

ACE Category*

Per cent

Abuse

Emotional Abuse 10.6

Physical Abuse 28.3

Sexual Abuse 20.7

Neglect

Emotional Neglect¹14.8

Physical Neglect¹9.9

Household Dysfunction

Mother Treated Violently 12.7

Household Substance Abuse 26.9

Household Mental Illness 19.4

Parental Separation or Divorce 23.3

Incarcerated Household Member 4.7

These ACE factors pointed to the following chronic health problems in the study group

alcoholism and alcohol abuse
chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD)
depression
fetal death
health-related quality of life
illicit drug use
ischemic heart disease (IHD)

liver disease
risk for intimate partner violence
multiple sexual partners
sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)
smoking
suicide attempts
unintended pregnancies

The long-term impacts of child abuse are in our faces daily. They affect us economically, socially, physically, and across all areas of life. Stereotypically, we put all child abuse victims in “at-risk”, low-income families even when research does not bear this out. For example, my father was a children’s dentist. I attended college and eventually received a doctorate. I married and had a family. I, also, contributed to the divorce rate twice and married three times. My third husband is a keeper…

Am I unusual? No. I treated many middle income and above sexual abuse survivors as a professional counselor. I talk with men and women daily who never felt safe to reveal the sexual abuse in their childhood until they were in their 30s, 40s, or even later. They never saw their abusers brought to justice either criminally or civilly. Many have little or no contact with their nuclear family. They end up creating their family with their spouse, children, and safe friends.

So, I ask you today…

How much longer are you willing to put child abuse on the back burner?

What does it take for our society to address the multitude of impacts of child abuse on our citizens?

I ask you to stand with me today and say now, now is the time to bring child abuse to the front burner of our state and national agenda.

Debra Wingfield, Ed.D., edutrainer, speaker, author

Transformational Journaling for Recovering Souls: 15 Guided Techniques to Recreate your Life

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Transformational Journaling Tip-February, 2008

2008-02-21T09:07:00.001-07:00

Hello Fellow soul Transformers,

How are you doing with your commitment to
transform your soul and re-create your life in 2008?

February in the U.S. is a time to reflect on leadership.
Today is the day we celebrate the birthdays of our Presidents.
Presidents have an awesome responsibility to lead a nation.
You are responsible for leading your life of choice.

Your transformational journaling process is the key to
developing your own life leadership.
Where are you leading your life over this next month?
Your focus point for February is:

I lead my life of choice when I transform my soul by.....

Please feel free to share or comment on my new blog

Until next month,

Peace and light,
DocDeb

P.S. I would love to hear your questions or leave a comment as
you transform your soul and re-create your life of choice.

Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls-Part V

2008-02-14T11:53:00.001-07:00

Hello Fellow Re-creators,

You have implemented the techniques of Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls to re-create your inner self, your outer self, and your self in relationships. In Stage IV, you bring your healing into your family and parenting relationships. This is an exciting part of your soul recovery journey. You have come full circle in healing your whole person.

In Stage IV, you implement the skills and attitudes acquired and practiced in the first three stages to one of the most stressful relationship areas in your life. Your family patterns were established very early in life. Now, you choose how to modify them in line with the new person you have become. You understand the emotional tugs by family members to keep your behavior and actions predictable. As you gain confidence and competence in your new choices, you experience your family members accepting your changes. You have re-created your life based on your choices.

Pause to enjoy the freedom of being your own person.

Next time, I will focus on the steps to follow....

May peace and contentment fill your heart,
Doc Deb

Author, Speaker, Transformational Journaling Edutrainer

Transformational Journaling for Recovering Souls: 15 Guided Techniques to Recreate your Life

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Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls--Part IV

2008-02-11T11:14:00.000-07:00

Hello,

Healing souls often want to escape from the stress of families and relationships especially around life cycle family events and holidays. Healing in relationships provides opportunities to practice healing with family members before you actually go to family gatherings.

The healing that occurs at Stage III focuses on healing in relationships. Many of us are shy about getting into relationships. Trust is a big issue, and we want to test the waters for a long time. Use the techniques learned and implemented in Stages I and II to heal your relationship concerns. Move yourself forward to be a re-creator with communication techniques, healthy relationship skills, and establish safe boundaries to help you stay in the present moment. Enjoy the experience of a re-created healthy relationship.

My next post covers Stage IV in the Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls program. This stage focuses on family/parenting.

Until then...peace be with you,
Doc Deb

Author:

Transformational Journaling for Recovering Souls: 15 Guided Techniques to Recreate your Life

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Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls--Part III

2008-02-08T15:41:00.000-07:00

Hello on this sunny Colorado afternoon,

While winter is still with us, it's time to move forward and take the next step to transforming your life and re-creating your soul.

The transformation that occurs at Stage III focuses on transformation in relationships. Many of us are shy about getting into relationships. Trust is a big issue, and we want to test the waters for a long time. Use the techniques learned and implemented in Stages I and II to heal your relationship concerns. Move yourself forward to be a re-creator with communication techniques, healthy relationship skills, and establish safe boundaries to help you stay in the present moment. Enjoy the experience of a re-created healthy relationship.

My next post covers Stage IV in the Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls program. This stage focuses on family/parenting.

Until then...peace be with you,
Doc Deb

Author:

Transformational Journaling for Recovering Souls: 15 Guided Techniques to Recreate your Life

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Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls--Part II

2008-02-05T13:03:00.000-07:00

Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls--Part II
There are four stages of healing in the Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls (TJ for HS) process.

Stage 1 = Past trauma healing for recovering souls
Stage 2 = Current issues healing for recovered souls
Stage 3 = Couple/relationship healing for recovered souls
Stage 4 = Parent/family healing for recovered souls

Today, let's focus on Stage 1. Healing past trauma for recovering souls is an individual journey. During this stage, you are learning to understand the trauma experience and how it impacted you. This is the place where you take a step back to see how you responded to the trauma experience. Then, you learn to place the trauma experience in perspective to re-create your life of choice from this point forward.

During Stage 1, you are healing the emotional and physical wounds that keep you from being your true self. You are learning to trust yourself and your feelings to guide you to take responsibility for creating the rest of your life. You are stepping beyond the trauma to a life of your choice. As you complete this portion of your journey, you are preparing yourself to be in charge of your life as it occurs day to day.

Next, we will look at Stage 2. This is the stage where you apply the skills you learned in Stage 1 to your present-day life.

Until then,

Have a peaceful day,
Doc Deb

Author, Transformational Journaling Mentor

Pre-launch: Transformational Journaling for Recovering Souls

2008-02-05T12:58:00.001-07:00

Hello from beautiful Colordao,

Excitement is mounting as I near completion of my revised book "Transformational Journaling for Recovering Souls: 15 Techniques to Re-Create Your Life" available on line as an eBook. This is the first book in a series of 4 focused on Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls (TM)
(TJ for HS). You're probably asking what is TJ for HS. In my past work as a counselor, I developed a program for my clients who were healing from abusive childhoods and dysfunctional families. Now, I am re-creating that program as an online healing option for adults from abusive and dysfunctional families. Here is a little bit about TJ for RS.

Transformational Journaling for Healing Souls (TM) stems from understanding that patterns learned and established in the past continue to repeat themselves in present relationships and families. When these patterns are dysfunctional, they affect the healthy development of the individual, relationships, and family. Through the Tranformational Journaling for Healing Souls (TM) process, you learn to change dysfunctional patterns and make conscious choices for healthy living.

There are four levels involved in healing. I'll share those with you tomorrow.

Peace and joy for today,
Doc Deb

Author, Speaker, Transformational Journaling Edutrainer

Transformational Journaling Benefits

2008-02-05T12:51:00.001-07:00

A friend recently said "I don't know much about journaling". How does it help in recovery? Many people in recovery run the same thoughts through their head over and over again attempting to figure out how to change their behavior. They keep getting the same answers they've always gotten. Journaling helps to get those repeated thoughts out of your head and down on paper where you can see them. This releases the thoughts so you can come back to them later. What often happens is there is now room to allow new information in to consider. While this is happening, new options are made known to you to recover your soul and re-create your life.

This is just one of the many benefits of journaling. I will continue to offer more ideas as this blog develops. Please feel free to send in your recovery related questions and comments related to child abuse, addictions, family violence, and other recovery areas.

Peaceful day,

Doc Deb

Author, Speaker, Transformational Journaling Edutrainer